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Difficult Behaviours in the Classroom

BEHAVIOR:

·         Rambling -- wandering around and off the subject. Using far-fetched examples or analogies.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Refocus attention by restating relevant point.

·         Direct questions to group that is back on the subject

·         Ask how topic relates to current topic being discussed.

·         Use visual aids, begin to write on board, turn on overhead projector.

·         Say: "Would you summarize your main point please?" or "Are you asking...?"

BEHAVIOR:

·         Shyness or Silence -- lack of participation.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Change teaching strategies from group discussion to individual written exercises or a videotape

·         Give strong positive reinforcement for any contribution.

·         Involve by directly asking him/her a question.

·         Make eye contact.

·         Appoint to be small group leader.

BEHAVIOR:

·         Talkativeness -- knowing everything, manipulation, chronic whining.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Acknowledge comments made.

·         Give limited time to express viewpoint or feelings, and then move on.

·         Make eye contact with another participant and move toward that person.

·         Give the person individual attention during breaks.

·         Say: "That's an interesting point. Now let's see what other other people think."

BEHAVIOR:

·         Sharpshooting -- trying to shoot you down or trip you up.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Admit that you do not know the answer and redirect the question the group or the individual who asked it.

·         Acknowledge that this is a joint learning experience.

·         Ignore the behavior.

BEHAVIOR:

·         Heckling/Arguing -- disagreeing with everything you say; making personal attacks.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Redirect question to group or supportive individuals.

·         Recognize participant's feelings and move one.

·         Acknowledge positive points.

·         Say: "I appreciate your comments, but I'd like to hear from others," or "It looks like we disagree."

BEHAVIOR:

·         Grandstanding -- getting caught up in one's own agenda or thoughts to the detriment of other learners.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Say: "You are entitled to your opinion, belief or feelings, but now it's time we moved on to the next subject," or "Can you restate that as a question?" or "We'd like to hear more about that if there is time after the presentation."

BEHAVIOR:

·         Overt Hostility/Resistance -- angry, belligerent, combative behavior.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Hostility can be a mask for fear. Reframe hostility as fear to depersonalize it.

·         Respond to fear, not hostility.

·         Remain calm and polite. Keep your temper in check.

·         Don't disagree, but build on or around what has been said.

·         Move closer to the hostile person, maintain eye contact.

·         Always allow him or her a way to gracefully retreat from the confrontation.

·         Say: "You seem really angry. Does anyone else feel this way?" Solicit peer pressure.

·         Do not accept the premise or underlying assumption, if it is false or prejudicial, e.g., "If by "queer" you mean homosexual..."

·         Allow individual to solve the problem being addressed. He or she may not be able to offer solutions and will sometimes undermine his or her own position.

·         Ignore behavior.

·         Talk to him or her privately during a break.

·         As a last resort, privately ask the individual to leave class for the good of the group.

BEHAVIOR:

·         Griping -- maybe legitimate complaining.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Point out that we can't change policy here.

·         Validate his/her point.

·         Indicate you'll discuss the problem with the participant privately.

·         Indicate time pressure.

BEHAVIOR:

·         Side Conversations -- may be related to subject or personal. Distracts group members and you.

POSSIBLE RESPONSES:

·         Don't embarrass talkers.

·         Ask their opinion on topic being discussed.

·         Ask talkers if they would like to share their ideas.

·         Casually move toward those talking.

·         Make eye contact with them.

·         Comment on the group (but don't look at them "one-at-a-time").

·         Standing near the talkers, ask a nea-by participant a question so that the new discussion is near the talkers.

·         As a last resort, stop and wait.

KEYS FOR MANAGING CHALLENGING STUDENT BEHAVIORS

·         Instead of holding your students with an iron grip, allow them to be themselves until (and unless) their behavior distracts you or others in the class.

·         When you notice unproductive behavior, nip it in the bud. Otherwise, you send a clear message to the students that it's OK for them to talk while you are talking, etc.

·         Use classroom management techniques before you become irritated, impatient or upset. We are much more powerful when we are centered, when we like out students, and when we view our students with fondness rather than impatience.

·         Allow students to save face. When we put students down in front of others, the entire class of students will turn against us.

·         Do all you can to feel good about yourself and others on a daily basis. Your attitude will come across to your students, so it is important to be in good mental and physical shape.

·         If, by chance, you feel that you have spoken sharply in an attempt to manager your students, own up to it. "Wow, that sounded harsh. Forgive me!"

·         Remind yourself: "If teaching were easy, everyone would be doing it." Teaching in front of a classroom full of students can be challenging, but on the other hand, very rewarding!

 

Something that your kid's lunch box wants to convey.

 

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Something that your kid’s lunch box wants to convey…

 

Sandwiches on Monday

Parathas on Tuesday

Dosa on Wednesday

Noodles on Thursday…….

Puri Sabzi ....

 

…and the menu was neatly chalked out for the entire week on a timetable card and hung on the kitchen wall. Not actually in the habit of eating according to timetables, but listening to the spontaneous biddings of my tongue , I asked my sister-in-law, Sridevi, who managed of our family kitchen, what this predetermined timetable was all about.

 

“It’s the school lunch timetable for Vaibhavi that her class teacher made for her class” she conveyed. This came as a surprise to me.

 

“But isn’t it you and Vaibhavi who decide upon the lunch that she would be carrying to school on a particular day?” I asked

 

“Yeah, Leena. That was what it used to be. But her principal has ordered the entire primary school to carry the same lunch on a particular day, so that every lunch box has the same contents each day. This was done because some children ate up the lunch of others and some of them returned home hungry on that account.” said my sister-in-law.

 

Vaibhavi doesn’t eat much, nor is she very fussy foodwise, but I know that everyday she lovingly asks her mother to prepare an item of her liking for her lunch at school. Does this mean that she needs to have Dosa on Wednesday when she actually feels like having a cheese burger on that day?

 

I remember, lunchtime was so very special during our school days. The entire gang would wait for lunchtime. The clandestine party would start much before that. We would exchange lunch boxes from underneath the desk. My friends would lap up my irresistible onion uthapam and tomato chutney, and I in turn would eagerly devour some delicious khichodi from one of the boxes.

 

There were people from different communities both national and international in my class, and food was one of the best reasons to make friends and know about each other’s cultures. Some of the lunchbox friendships have endured the test of time and are going strong even to this day. My friendship with my best friend Arpita began with me exchanging my puri sabzi with her French toast, and even today we are the best of friends.

 

Not only this, the mums who prepared the best lunches were always praised and remembered by the kids.

 

But with this new rule of the entire primary school having to carry the same lunch, will they have much to look forward to during lunchtime? Of course, this rule ensures that no child eats another child’s lunch and no child returns home hungry. But have children of the present times become so cruel that they will leave some of their friends hungry? I don’t think so. Even if some children are engaging in such behavior, shouldn’t we as parents teach them the ever precious lesson of sharing and caring, or should we give them a lesson that encourages an ‘each to his own’ kind of a principle? The choice is ours…

 

Daddy

HOW A SON/DAUGHTER THINKS OF HIS/HER DADDY AT DIFFERENT AGES:


At 4 Years
My daddy is great.

At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.

At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered

At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young.

At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.

At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.

At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.

At 20 Years
Oh! Its becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up with him.

At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.

At 30 Years
It's becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my father when I was young.
 
At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the same.

At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.

At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage a single son.

At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us. He is one of his kind and unique.

At 60 Years
My daddy is great.

Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the 1st. stage. Realize the true value of your parents before its too late

 

Women's History month

WOMEN PLS READ THIS GREAT !!!!

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO PLAN TO BE GREAT MUMS, THOSE OF YOU, WHO ARE GREAT MUMS,
THOSE WHO HAVE GREAT MUMS AND THOSE OF YOU WHO HAD GREAT MUMS...


Real Mothers don't eat quiche; they  don't have time to make it.


Real Mothers know that their kitchen utensils are probably in the sandbox.


Real Mothers often have sticky floors, filthy ovens and happy kids.


Real  Mothers know that dried play dough doesn't come out of shag carpets.


Real Mothers don't want to know what the vacuum just sucked up.


Real Mothers sometimes ask 'Why me?' and get their answer when a little voice says, 'Because I love you best.'


Real Mothers know that a child's growth is not measured by height or years or grade... It is marked by the  progression of Mama to Mum to Mother...


4  YEARS OF AGE - My Mummy can do anything!


8  YEARS OF AGE - My Mum knows a lot! A whole  lot!


12 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother doesn't  really know quite everything.


14 YEARS OF AGE - Naturally, Mother doesn't know that, either.


16 YEARS OF AGE - Mother? She's  hopelessly old-fashioned.


18 YEARS OF AGE -  That old woman? She's way out of date!


25  YEARS OF AGE - Well, she might know a little bit  about it.


35 YEARS OF AGE - Before we decide, let's get Mum's opinion.


45 YEARS  OF AGE - Wonder what Mum would have thought about  it?


65 YEARS OF AGE - Wish I could talk it over with Mum.


The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a  facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is  reflected in her soul.  It is the caring that  she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows,  and the beauty of a woman with passing years only  grows!


Please send this to 5 women today in  celebration of Women's History Month.


If  you don't, nothing bad will happen, but if you do,  something good will:
You  will boost a Mother  spirits 

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Potato Puppy

My four-year-old son, Shane, had been asking for a puppy for over a
month, but his daddy kept saying, "No dogs! A dog will dig up the
garden and chase the ducks and kill our rabbits. No dog, and that's
final!" Each night Shane prayed for a puppy, and each morning he was
disappointed when there was no puppy waiting outside.
I was peeling potatoes for dinner, and he was sitting on the floor at
my feet asking for the thousandth time, "Why won't Daddy let me have a
puppy?"
"Because they are a lot of trouble. Don't cry. Maybe Daddy will change
his mind someday," I encouraged him.
"No, he won't, and I'll never have a puppy in a million years," Shane wailed.
I looked into his dirty, tear-streaked face. How could we deny him his
one wish? So I said the words that were first spoken by Eve, "I know a
way to make Daddy change his mind."
"Really?" Shane wiped away his tears and sniffed. I handed him a potato.
"Take this and carry it with you until it turns into a puppy," I
whispered. "Never let it out of your sight for one minute. Keep it
with you all the time, and on the third day, tie a string around it
and drag it around the yard and see what happens!"
Shane grabbed the potato with both hands. "Mama, how do you make a
potato into a puppy?" He turned it over and over in his little hands.
"Shh! It's a secret!" I whispered and sent him on his way.
"Lord, you know what a woman must do to keep peace in her home!" I prayed.
Shane faithfully carried his potato around for two days; he slept with
it, bathed with it and talked to it. On the third day I said to my
husband, "We really should get a pet for Shane."
"What makes you think he needs a pet?" My husband leaned against the doorway.
"Well, he's been carrying a potato around with him for days. He calls
it Wally and says it is his pet. He sleeps with it on his pillow, and
right now he has a string tied to it and he's dragging it around the
yard," I said.
"A potato?" my husband asked and looked out the window and watched
Shane taking his potato for a walk.
"It will break his heart when the potato gets mushy and rots," I said
and started getting out food for lunch. "Besides, every time I try to
peel potatoes for dinner, Shane cries because he says I'm killing
Wally's family."
"A potato?" my husband asked. "My son has a pet potato?"
"Well," I said shrugging, "you said he couldn't have a puppy. He was
so disappointed, in his mind, he decided he had to have a pet..."
"That's crazy!" my husband said.
"Maybe you're right, but explain to me why he is dragging that potato
around the yard on a string," I said.
My husband watched our son for a few more minutes. "I'll bring home a
puppy tonight. I'll stop by the animal shelter after work. I guess a
puppy can't be that much trouble," he sighed. "It's better than a
potato."
That night Shane's daddy brought home a wiggling puppy and a pregnant
white cat that he took pity on while he was at the shelter.
Everyone was happy. My husband thought he'd saved his son from a
nervous breakdown. Shane had a puppy, a cat and five kittens and
believed his mother had magic powers that could change a potato into a
puppy. And I was happy because I got my potato back and cooked it for
dinner. Everything was perfect until one evening when I was cooking
dinner, Shane tugged on my dress and asked, "Mama, do you think I
could have a pony for my birthday?"
I looked into his sweet little face and said, "Well, first we have to
take a watermelon..."

 

A Time Called Together

It came to me like a ghost in the night ever so quietly. I lay there sleeping in the warmth of an ancient, old bed that had been passed down through the years in our family. It was a memory one that had been tucked away in the recesses of my mind. A memory I vowed never to forget, but somewhere through the passage of time it had faded, like so many other things I promised in my youth to remember forever. Why then this sudden resurgence of a long lost thought.

It was partially my son`s fault. It was knocked loose in the way that children have of doing with their innocence. He asked, "Dad, let`s go fishing." There was a time in my life; back when we were both young, he and I enjoyed the company of one another. Back in the days when time was a precious commodity. I looked at him with eyes that said "all right" but a heart that said I was tired.

Being a teenager of sixteen living in the nineties, he could not be fooled so easily and he said, "But if you`re tired I could call a friend." Then I said with a heavy heart, "Yeah, go ahead," minutes later I wanted to stop him and say, "Wait, I want to come with you." But I stood there frozen in time until the taillights were nothing but a distance memory. I wanted nothing more in life than to stop him not only from driving away but from growing up as well.

I wanted him young again and to be the most important thing in his life, but I could not, for time stops for no man or child. I stood there alone and thought, "in twenty-four months when he turns eighteen he will no longer be a child, but a man, and my chances will even be slimmer that he will ever ask me to go fishing again.

Just that suddenly I thought I herd laughter in the distance. I looked towards the yard and saw the ghost of a father and son playing ball, and tag, training the dog together. They were laughing and smiling, and sharing a moment in life that may never be again. That night as I went to bed there was no sweet dreams or visions of sugarplums that danced in my head. Instead there was a ghost of long times forgotten that I called yesterday, it bought with him a vision of a young boy in his teens vowing to himself that things were going to be different when he himself was a man. Then without warning the vision turned and the face I saw staring back was me. I was shocked, stunned then saddened at the thought of history, my history repeating itself. Was I too late? Had I become the man I vowed never to be?

In the early pre-hours of dawn, a time when the darkness is bought to life by the sweet chanting voice of a robin, I awoke my son from a sleep so peaceful and quiet and undauntedly asked the question, "Hey, do you want to go fishing?" With his head full of cobwebs he said, "No, I am tired." I then let him drift back to dreamland and said, "That`s all right; we will go later," and later we did. In mid-morning on a Saturday we did something centuries old that for as long as fathers and sons exist there will be a "Time Called Together."

Once the truck was loaded that morning we were on our way. Headed on a journey, not to just go fishing but to find something we had lost some-where through the years of growing up. There was a silence that morning that could only be understood between two souls searching for a way to find themselves again. How did we become so disconnected?

At one time we were a father and son who spent every waking hour together. Now in the span of three or four years something had come between us, a menace in our society called growing old. And how the two of us faced this menace would determine our connection to one another forever.

As we neared the lake, the silence was broken by my son, "I hope they`re biting." I smiled back with a smile of reassurance that my thoughts were the same. As we pulled along the lake, I got out and admired the sheer beauty of the moment. The lake was smooth as glass; a breeze gently blowing through the trees was calling an invitation to a father and son who were lost in the world rushing by them.

The first cast of the morning was elegant and sleek as the ultra thin line floated like a cobweb in the misty morning air and glided softly on the mirrored lake. We fished for hours that morning. Many strikes were felt and many fish were caught. What kind and exactly how many I can`t recall. What I do recall were the words spoken between a father and son. I remember the laughter and tears shared between two souls who cried out in the misty morning air for one another. By the time our fishing excursion was done, we had connected again. Like two broken wires that had been severed we were spliced and woven back together by common interest and love for one another. We were as one, but we were also different and that`s the way it should be.

That night, as we headed home down the dusty graveled road, a thought came to me that yes, time marches on for all of us. Then as I glanced over to my son and saw a child who use to be, I realized that a boy was disappearing from my sight forever. But in his place was growing a man I was proud to call my son.

Cell Phones and Children?

Do you remember a time when most people on the roads just drove their car? Let me be more explicit. Do you remember a time when the main activities drivers engaged in were talking to a passenger, singing, and eating or drinking something?

 

 

Today it's not often that I simply see someone driving; a good third or so of the people are talking on their cell phones. Now I realize that my percentage is far from accurate data but the fact that a large number of people talk (via cell) and drive is common knowledge.

 

 

Of course the prominence of cell phones goes beyond the streets. You can find cell phones attached to ears everywhere. Little is sacred now; once that little phone rings a quick "excuse me" is the standard protocol. Sometimes I wonder if society is addicted; after all, people seem to take their phones everywhere, even when they are in the company of others. I see it when I walk my son around the neighborhood, other walkers and their cell phones. I've been out to eat with acquaintances that interrupt our dinner for their daily touch-base with their aunt. I've even accidentally responded to strangers in the grocery store who were looking my way, saying something, yet talking on those headset devices.

The good news for our cell-crazed culture is that a German study recently announced that their decade's long study found that cell phones were safe for adults. Of course there were caveats: they cannot make conclusions based on more than 10 years of cell phone usage and some cellular activity did change while being "under the influence" of mobile/cell phone radiation. (According to the article, even this information did not dissuade the survey from concluding that cell phones were safe.)

 

 

So, the good news is that, as of now, we can continue being a country obsessed with cell phones.

 

I think it's important to note though that the study could not make any safety statements regarding children and cell phone usage. Therefore, since there is not evidence one way or another they suggest that children do not use mobile phones.

 

Although most kids probably aren't concerned about how healthy it is to use cell phones, as their parents, we have to be. And since having a cell phone is starting to become "the thing" at earlier and earlier ages, we need to pay extra attention to future studies that focus on this population and cell phone exposure. It may just be that we have to tone down our usage of cell phones in order to keep our kids from becoming too eager to start acting like adults at the expense of their health. The question is: could we do it?

 

Forgetfulness

24 Handy Ways to a Better Memory

Do you have a hard time remembering names, phone numbers, and important dates? Are you constantly losing your car in parking lots? When you leave for vacation, do you have to turn around 20 miles down the road to make sure you shut off all the appliances? Do you sometimes forget how to spell common words? If you can answer yes to most of these questions, here's some very good news: Forgetfulness is curable!

Er, let's see, where were we? Ah, yes. We checked with a few professional memory experts, and a few whose professions require excellent memories. We even checked with a 13-year-old national spelling bee champion. They told us their secrets for building an iron-clad memory.

 

"With a few simple devices, it's within most people's power to have a super memory," says memory expert Michael Pressley, Ph.D., professor of human development at the University of Maryland.

 

What kinds of devices? Glad you asked.

MEDICAL ALERT


Keep These Symptoms in Mind

 

Most skin lumps are not cancer, and most slips of memory are not Alzheimer's disease. "But people tend to be hard on themselves, particularly so as they get older," says Stanley Berent, Ph.D.

 

When is your forgetfulness so serious that you should see a professional about it? Dr. Berent suggests the following guidelines:

  • Do you lose contact with reality? It's one thing to forget today's date, another to forget the year. If you lose track of where you are, can't remember if it's evening or morning, or have forgotten the name of your spouse (as opposed to someone you just met), a doctor should be consulted.
  • Are you uncomfortable with yourself? If you're feeling anxious about your recent memory lapses, don't sweat it out—seek a doctor's advice.
  • Are you performing your day-to-day roles efficiently? If forgetfulness is affecting your work, your role as a parent or grandparent, or any of your other life activities, you may need help.

Above all, says Dr. Berent, know that your memory doesn't have to be perfect to be okay. Some forgetfulness is just part of life.

 

 

Think of remembering as re-membering. Say you're appearing on a television game show and you're on the verge of winning an all-expense-paid trip around the world. All you need to do is remember the name of the battle in which Napoleon was defeated. You know the answer. It's on the tip of your tongue. How to get it off?

 

"Try to reinstate as much as possible of what you know surrounding the issue," says Robin West, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Florida. Thus, Napoleon may lead to Josephine, to France, to the Napoleonic Code, to battles, and (eventually) to Waterloo. "The more connections you make, the better your chances of finding the right pathway," says Dr. West.

 

Are There Any Pills for Forgetfulness?

Scientists have long looked for relationships between nutrients and your brain's ability to learn and remember. They know that a lack of certain nutrients can lead to memory and other cognitive failures, but whether supplemental nutrients can lead to supplemental memory is still a mystery.

 

Research over the past several years has focused on the following nutrients, all of which seem related to memory: vitamins B1 (thiamine), B6, B12, and C, choline, folate, niacin, calcium, copper, iodine, iron, magnesium, manganese, potassium, zinc, and—above all—lecithin.

 

Some research from the Institute of Physiology in Sofia, Bulgaria, raises questions and hopes about a new, exotic nutrient. Scientists there, experimenting with mice and ginseng, have determined that something in the root of the Chinese plant improves both learning and memory. At least with mice.

So it appears that the day may come when forgetfulness can be cured by popping a pill every morning. Of course, some of us will inevitably forget to take our pills.

 

 

Take a picture. The average American, in the course of a lifetime, spends a full year looking for misplaced objects. Want to save yourself a year of your life? You can. Take a good look at those keys as you place them on the table. "Raise your hands to your eyes, miming a camera, and click the button," suggests Joan Minninger, Ph.D., in her book Total Recall: How to Boost Your Memory Power.

 

Talk to yourself. Go ahead, don't be shy. Give yourself an aural as well as a visual image to remember. If you leave your car at the end of the parking lot, under the huge oak tree, go ahead and say, "I'm leaving my car at the far end of the parking lot, under the huge oak tree." Say it out loud. "It's another way to reinforce the memory," says Irene B. Colsky, Ed.D., a memory expert and adjunct professor in the Department of Teaching and Learning at the University of Miami.

 

Tie a yellow ribbon around the old oak tree. Afraid you'll remember your car is under an oak tree, but you'll forget which oak tree? Use physical reminders—they are "very efficient ways to remember," says Forrest R. Scogin, Ph.D., an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Alabama. The "yellow ribbon" on the oak tree could just as well be a rubber band around your wrist (to remind yourself to buy tissues), a wristwatch on the "wrong" arm (to remind yourself of Aunt Bertha's birthday)—or just about anything you can think of.

 

Make lists. Wherever and whenever possible, jot down on paper what you need to remember. "Our short-term memory has limited capacities—there's only so much space available," says Dr. Scogin. By making lists, you not only are assured of remembering what you wrote down, but it frees your mind for more important things.

 

Categorize. When pencil and paper are unavailable, you'll have to list things in your head—but don't do so randomly, says Dr. Scogin. If you're on your way to the grocery store and you know you need 20 items, you'll probably never remember all 20 unless they are logically grouped. Think: five vegetables, four paper goods, three fruits, etc.

 

Chunk. "Chunking" is like categorizing, but you do it with numbers. If, for instance, you had to remember the numbers 2, 0, 2, 4, 5, 6, 1, 4, 1, 4, you'd probably have a rough time of it. Remember                      (202) 456-1414        (the phone number of the White House) is quite a bit easier. Phone numbers come naturally chunked, as do social security numbers (001-00-1000). You are free, of course, to "chunk" not only these but any numbers you like.

 

Make up a silly story. If you've got several items to remember and you're afraid you never will—no problem. Just make up a tale involving your items, says Dr. Pressley. Say you're on your way to the market and you need pork chops, apricots, milk, and bread. Tell yourself a story in which a pig is drinking milk, in a wheat field, under the shade of an apricot tree.

 

To remember names, think of faces. Perhaps the most difficult memory task we're faced with is remembering the names of people we've just met, says Dr. Scogin. The trick is to etch in your mind a permanent association between the name and the face. Better yet, find a prominent feature on the face and focus in on that. If Budd Luzinski, that new guy in the office, happens to have a long nose—visualize a tiny man skiing down that long nose. Imagine that little man losing (Luzinski) those skis.

 

How to Avoid Stage Fright

For most of us, keeping a dozen or so phone numbers, an occasional shopping list, and the starting times of our favorite television shows under our cap is about all we demand of our short-term memory.

But what do you do when you have to remember a sales pitch, a speech, or the lines of a play? Or how to spell at a moment's notice any word in the English language? Professional Shakespearean actor Edward Gero and 13-year-old national spelling bee champion Rageshree Ramachandran of Sacramento, California, have a few tips for remembering words and their spellings.

From Edward Gero:

  • "Before I memorize my lines, they have to make sense to me. I will read Shakespeare's lines to myself, putting them into my own words."
  • "I look for rhythm patterns. 'To be, or not to be'Édum de, dum dum de dum."
  • "I look for any alphabetical keys. For instance, in MacBeth, I had to say the following line: 'But, I have none; the king-becoming graces, as justice, verity, temp'rance, stablenessÉ' It helped me to remember the order by knowing that the first two, justice and verity, are in alphabetical order, and that the second two, temp'rance and stableness, are in reverse alphabetical order."
  • "I try to associate lines with movements, so that in The Merchant of Venice, I say, 'and let my liver rather heat with wine' as I'm reaching for a glass of wine."

From Rageshree Ramachandran:

  • "A lot of spellers just try to memorize a list of words for spelling bees—that doesn't work. It's not just memorizing, it's learning the words. I make a new word part of my everyday vocabulary."
  • "Spelling is mostly logic. If a word is unfamiliar, I'll look for a part of it that I can understand. I can spell elegiacal, for instance, because I know it comes from elegy. (Elegiacal means expressing sorrow.) I can spell mhometer because I know that mho is the reciprocal of ohm, and a mhometer measures ohms (a measure of electricity)."
  • "A lot of memory is visual. It helps me to remember a new word if I write it down several times."
  • "There are often little tricks to help spell a word. Take curliewurly (a little squiggly shape). I had to remember that it was curliewurly, and not curlywurlie. The solution was simple: ie comes before y in the word—just like in the alphabet."

 

 

Make name associations. It's always easier to remember names if you have something to associate the name with. If you have to remember the name of someone who has no big nose or mole on the cheek, make up a little story. Picture someone named Bruce Taylor sitting in front of you with a pair of scissors, a measuring tape, and a piece of chalk. Someone named Feinstein, you might picture sitting before you holding a huge stein full of beer. Someone named Pressley? Imagine him reading the Pittsburgh Press or shaking hands with Elvis, says Dr. Pressley.

 

Look for "markers." Things that happened to you long ago did not happen in isolation from other events, says Dr. Pressley. Say, for instance, you forgot when it was that you worked at the ABC Construction Company. Think of any markers or cues that might help your focus. You may recall that you were dating so-and-so at the time, and that so-and-so and you would often go to the movies, and that one movie you saw together was Jaws. You may then recall (or your local librarian can help you find out) that Jaws appeared in the theaters in 1975.

 

Outline your thoughts. Many college students become intimately involved with a pink, yellow, or green highlighting marker. But you don't need a highlighter to outline your thoughts. You can do it mentally. "Select what is important and what is not," says Dr. Pressley. You're far less likely to forget what you read, he says.

 

Read, read, and read. If your problem is forgetting words, it's probably because you don't use them enough, says Frederic Siegenthaler. As a senior interpreter at the United Nations, he must store an enormous vocabulary in his memory and keep it ready to pull out at any moment. In English alone (and Siegenthaler is also fluent in French, German, Russian, and Spanish), there are as many as 200,000 words available, although we typically use fewer than 5,000 on a daily basis. So if you can't seem to find the right word, your vocabulary is likely to be a bit rusty.

 

Solution? "Do as much reading as you can," says Siegenthaler. "I recommend good fiction, particularly classics of the English language, such as those of Charles Dickens, Jane Austin, or Somerset Maugham.

 

Test yourself. "People generally aren't very good at knowing how good they are at remembering," says Dr. Pressley. "It's very common that someone may think he remembers something, but he doesn't." You've probably experienced this in the middle of an exam. The way to make sure it doesn't happen again is to give yourself a quiz before the exam, says Dr. Pressley. "A practice test will let you know if you have it down or not."

 

Keep calm. Stress and anxiety can clearly disrupt memory performance, says Dr. Pressley. "You need your consciousness to encode things. Anxiety eats that up."

If you're a forgetful person, it may be that your mind could use a vacation. Patricia Sze of Berlitz International Language School in New York City claims that her school's success in teaching students foreign languages lies largely in the nonthreatening environment of soothing colors, no grades, and no testing.

 

Check your medicine cabinet and liquor cabinet. Dozens of things have the potential to contribute to forgetfulness, says Stanley Berent, Ph.D., director of the Neuropsychology Program and an associate professor in the Department of Psychology, Psychiatry, and Neurology at the University of Michigan Medical School. At the root of your forgetfulness may be the booze you're drinking or certain drugs you're taking, such as diet pills, blood pressure medication, or antihistamines.

 

Aspartame harms young brains

Learning and memory may be affected if young people have diet drinks containing the artificial sweetener aspartame, according to a US paediatrician who is presenting evidence today by telelink to the Health Committee at 10am. Mothers are also concerned about New Zealand schools which are now stocking artificially sweetened drinks instead of sugar soft drinks.

The Committee is hearing submissions on aspartame as a result of a petition which calls for the removal of all products containing aspartame and other artificial sweeteners from schools, as well as warning labels on products to alert pregnant women and mothers of young children.

"We are presenting this submission on behalf of over 8,000 people from throughout New Zealand, and especially for all those who have become aware that their symptoms of ill health are due to consuming products with aspartame," stated Alison White, Co-convenor of the Safe Food Campaign.

"The artificial sweetener is the most controversial and complained about additive in history. You only have to google it to see that. It is significant that non-industry funded studies have found various adverse health effects from aspartame, whereas industry-funded studies do not find problems. We cannot underestimate the power and sophistication of industry to maintain and expand its profit and market share, regardless of the health consequences of exposure to this substance."

"The manifestations of aspartame disease in young children are myriad," reported Dr Kenneth Stoller, MD. "These may range from severe headaches, unexplained visual loss, to depression, antisocial behaviour and seizures. Aspartame is not just a food additive. The components in it are isolated in a way that does not occur in nature. It is a neurotoxic drug, causing the deterioration of brain cells."

Mother of a school student, Mary Byrne, is concerned that the Hutt Valley school her daughter attends now stocks artificially sweetened drinks. "I think it's a good thing they're getting rid of sugar soft drinks from schools, but I don't think it's good they're replacing them with artificially sweetened drinks," said Ms Byrne. "I'm pleased that a teacher at the school my daughter is attending is going to show a video on aspartame to students. This gives students more information about the dangers of aspartame, so they are motivated to avoid it."

Aspartame is being used in an increasing number of products, an estimated 6000 products worldwide, not just those labelled 'diet' and 'sugar free' but also in chewing gum, sports drinks, dietary supplements and medications. Sometimes the only warning is 'contains phenylalanine'. An estimated one in 15 people consume aspartame around the world.

"We are alarmed that exposure of young people in New Zealand to aspartame is probably increasing," said Ms White. "Young children especially are at risk of developing an allergy to formaldehyde from aspartame products. Parents and doctors need to be alerted to the problem." The submission presented to the Health Committee includes the stories of three people who have become aware that their health problems were caused by aspartame.

The petition requests specifically:

1. Warning labels on all products containing aspartame to increase awareness of symptoms associated with aspartame toxicity, particularly to alert pregnant women and mothers of small children.

2. A public education programme to raise awareness about adverse reactions to aspartame.

3. A programme to raise awareness within the medical profession of the symptoms associated with aspartame toxicity, to prevent incorrect diagnosis of conditions that may be related to aspartame toxicity.

4. Removal of all products containing aspartame and other artificial sweeteners from schools to reduce toxic effects on young people, thus reducing any behavioural and psychological problems that may result from these effects.

 

A MORNING PRAYER

Dear Lord, I thank you for this day. I thank You for my being able to see and to hear this morning. I'm blessed because You are a forgiving God and an understanding God. You have done so much for me and You keep on blessing me. Forgive me this day for everything I have done, said or thought that was not pleasing to you. I ask now for Your forgiveness.

Please keep me safe from all danger and harm. Help me to start this day with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude. Let me make the best of each and every day to clear my mind so tha t I can hear from You.

Please broaden my mind that I can accept all things.

Let me not whine and whimper over things I have no control over. Let me continue to see sin through God's eyes and acknowledge it as evil. And when I sin, let me repent, and confess w ith my mouth my wrongdoing, and receive the forgiveness of God.

And when this world closes in on me, let me remember Jesus' example -- to slip away and find a quiet place to pray. It's the best response when I'm pushed beyond my limits. I know that when I can't pray, You listen to my heart. Continue to use me to do Your will.

Continue to bless me that I may be a blessing to others. Keep me strong that I may help the weak. Keep me uplifted that I may have words of encouragement for others. I pray for those who are lost and can't find their way. I pray for those who are misjudged and misunderstood. I pray for those who don't know You intimately. I pray for those who will delete this without sharing it w ith others. I pray for those who don't believe. But I thank you that I believe.

I believe that God changes people and God changes things. I pray for all my sisters and brothers. For each and every family member in their households. I pray for peace, love and joy in their homes that they are out of debt and all their needs are met.

I pray that every eye that reads this knows there is no problem, circumstance, or situation greater than God. Every battle is in Your hands for You to fight. I pray that these words be received into the hearts of every eye that sees them and every mouth that confesses them willingly..

This is my prayer.
In God's Name, May God bless you.

 

TODAY PRAYER

Today is the day that the Lord hath made we will
rejoice and be glad in it...I thank you Jesus for your
love to me from day to day...As I look back over the years,
I thank you Jesus for all the answered prayers.
I cannot help but praise my Lord. I want to tell you Jesus
that I love you.....We'll shout it out and rebuke satan
in the name of Jesus. We plead the blood of Jesus upon
those who need a special healing or a special touch
from God in these days...Jesus you know all about your
children you tells us to enter right into the holy of
holies and make our request known unto you.. I pray that
you would wrap and shield each one in your loving arms
and hold them so tight, show them your love and that You
will work all things out for their good and your glory.
Lord many of your children is hurting today for different
reasons but we leave them in your care and we'll believe
for a miracle in Jesus name. I ask that God's protection
would be upon each and everyone in these difficult days.
If we love Him and live our lives according to His commands,
even when life seems so hopeless and dark, God is about
to bring blessing into your life. Thank you Jesus for
what you are about to do.....Amen

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