Exam Time: Hints for Effective Studying

The exam period is a time when stress levels are higher than usual. Stress can be positive, helping you to stay motivated and focused. However, too much stress can be unhelpful, it can make you feel overwhelmed, confused, exhausted and edgy.

 

It's important to try and keep things in perspective and find ways of reducing stress if things seem to be getting on top of you. This factsheet gives you some suggestions of things you can do to maximise your study time and help you learn better.  

Suggestions for Helping you Through Exams

Study Habits

Study Area - Having a good study area can make a huge difference to how well you learn. Study in a well lit, quiet area, away from noises and people in the house. If this is impossible, it might be better to study at the library. Make sure your desk is tidy and organised - it means you can concentrate on studying and learning, not trying to find information.

 

Find Out About the Exam – Find out what format the exam will take i.e. Are the questions in essay, short answer or multiple choice format? Is the exam open book or closed book? Knowing how the exam is marked and what proportion of your total mark it’s worth might also be helpful.

To Do Lists - Make a to do list before each study session. Breaking tasks down into small, managable tasks will make it less overwhelming. Cross them off with a texta as you go.

Past Exam Papers - Ask your teacher for past exam papers. They can be a useful insight into what your exam will be like and can also provide a guide for what you know and the areas in which you need help. If possible, practice some under exam conditions and get your teacher to mark them.

Study Groups - Forming a studying group can be a helpful way to revise your notes and work through past exam questions (it can also help you feel supported, keep you motivated and focused). If you have questions about your work, a study group may be a good place to have them answered. Ask your teacher if they know of anyone else interested in studying with other people.

Switch the Phone or Email Off! - If you find that you are being distracted by the phone or emails, it might help to put the answering machine on or get others in the house to take messages for a while. You can always ring people back later.

Wallpaper - Write down key concepts you have to learn on small sheets of paper followed by examples of how they are used. Post these sheets around your house, e.g. your bed, on the toilet door, in front of the CD collection.  It helps with remembering things like equations, quotes and foreign languages.

Ask Lots of Questions of your Teachers or Tutor! Your teacher or tutor can help if you are having trouble developing a study routine or need help with understanding subjects or a particular topic. Asking for help doesn't mean you're a failure or stupid - it's smart to tap into their experience and knowledge to help you perform better. Keep going back to them if you're still unsure or you have more questions. It's their job to be available for you.  

 

Know your Preferred Learning Style - Some people work better using text based memory tools, like acronyms (e.g. ROYGBIV - colours of the rainbow; acrostics e.g. Every Good Boy Deserves Fruit). Other people find more visual tools more useful, e.g. mind maps or tree diagrams.

 

Take Regular Breaks - Getting up, moving around and away from your desk at least every 50 minutes for 10 minutes makes you concentrate and learn better.

 

Revise and Learn (Not Just Re-Read) - Sometimes reading through notes doesn't result in learning or understanding. Include the following in revising each topic:

• Vocabulary, technical terms definitions
• Summaries of points
• Formulae, rules, diagrams, charts
• Ability to understand relationships

Time Management

Avoid Procrastination - Procrastination is when you do everything else but the task you need to do. It is normal to procrastinate a little. However too much procrastination can just add to your stress and can result in you not giving yourself enough time to prepare. Managing your time and setting realistic goals for each study session can be helpful ways to avoid procrastinating and make tasks seem less overwhelming. 

Make a Study Timetable – Write down all the things you need to do each day of the week, and how long you need for each, including time for enough sleep, relaxation, and exercise. Find out the date of each exam and work out a study timetable leading up to them. Include tests that will help you identify gaps in your knowledge. This can give you some direction and help you focus on what to study each week or day.

 

Use your Frees - Studying in the school library during your frees gives you access to lots of information available on the reference shelves. Some material, such as sample solutions, often can’t be taken out of the library or can be too long to photocopy.

 

Letter to my Grandchildren

To my beautiful grandchildren...

Our world is changing so fast and there are many things I wish for you...

I'd really like for you to know about hand-me-down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.

I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated.

I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.

And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.

I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.

I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother or sister.

And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when they want to crawl under the covers with you because they're scared, I hope you let them.

When you want to see a movie and your little brother or sister wants to tag along, I hope you'll let them.

I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.

On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.

If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.

I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.

When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.

I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.

May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.

I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it.

And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.

I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your grandparents and go fishing with your uncle.

These are just some of the things that I wish for you - tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.

 

 

Nurture your child, Not Your Ego

"Your children…come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you…" - Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

One of the biggest challenges of bringing up junior is to do it with a heart big enough to relish his/her path to success. Viewing your kids' lives through your eyes is one thing, and making efforts so that they replicate your success is another.

Many parents measure their own value by their children's successes and failures. Children not hitting the socially accepted milestones early enough, or not living up to a parent's (often unrealistic) expectations, can put them on the road to failure, rightaway, without any apparent fault of theirs. Here's why you should keep your egoistic expectations aside while nurturing your kids, for you live with who the child is, and not what the child could be..

PARENTING PLUS EGO

A recent example of a parent never satisfied with her son's accomplishments was the mother of a preteen tennis player we came across. When complimented by another mother about her son's skills, the tennis player's mother responded through clenched teeth, "Well, he's no Roger Federer." (For those who're wondering, Federer is one the greatest tennis players of all time.)

The mother's response is that of a typical parent desperate to see her child dazzle the world. Her expectations are destructive to herself and to her child. Her comparison robs her of the joy of watching her son play, and because even Aishwarya Rai isn't a good enough actress to hide the kind of disappointment the mother is feeling, this child's self-esteem is at grave risk of damage.

TAKING ALL THE CREDIT

The other side of the coin is the parent who likes to take all credit for the child's success and creates an entire identity around that child. This parent, like the earlier case, yearns for an exceptional child. Thus the child becomes responsible for the parents' feelings of self-worth.

It is important for parents to disentangle their egos from their parenting. If you've followed the above stated Gibran line, children begin their own journey through life as soon as the umbilical cord is cut. Attentive parenting is vital to their growth, but children also deserve to own both their disappointments and successes..

Taking parenting too emotionally too can make parenting harder. An unwillingness to see the child realistically, the parent misses what skills and behaviours need efforts, and then gets frustrated and confused when the child acts out. "But my child is gifted, why is he unable to potty train? I must be a bad mother."

HELICOPTER PARENTING

"Helicopter Parents" are those who constantly hover over their children, track their movements, get inappropriately involved (with adult children too) and have skewed vision of themselves and their child.

To understand this better, read this case: It has become banal for parents to come to defend their children who've been marked lowly or have been reprimanded by a teacher. Their ego is damaged when their child needs correcting, and in response they're angered and end up challenging the professional. The term "helicopter parenting" has been coined to describe these hovering parents.

A true but unbelievable example of "helicopter parenting" we heard of was at a big insurance company. The father of a smart, well educated, twenty-five year old woman called her boss to discuss her job performance.. Weeks later this same young woman missed a flight to a meeting she was supposed to take with her boss. He understandingly told her that she should go straight to the office and work. Instead she took an 8-hour train ride to the city to try to attend the meeting anyway. When questioned why she did not act as she was instructed, she responded, "My mother told me that I had to go to the meeting."

PARENTING MINUS EGO

To develop self esteem in your kids, drop your own ego first. Period. They can experience your unconditional love only when you value them for who they are and not what they succeed at.

When parents allow their children to be their own people instead of an extension of themselves, children begin to take responsibility for their own decisions. Establishing appropriate boundaries between parent and child helps the child become independent and not feel pressured to excel in the hopes that their parents will feel fulfilled.

 

 

7 reason not mess with children.

A little girl was talking to her teacher

about whales.  
  
The teacher said it was physically impossible

for a whale to swallow a human because

even though it was a very large mammal

its throat was very small.
  
The little girl stated that Jonah was

swallowed by a whale.
  
Irritated, the teacher reiterated that a

whale could not swallow a human;

it was physically impossible.
  
The little girl said, "When I get to heaven

I will ask Jonah".
  
The teacher asked, " What if Jonah went

to hell?"
  
The little girl replied, "Then you ask him". 
   
 Good point ... Hmmmm ....
  
A Kindergarten teacher was observing her classroom of children while they were drawing. She would occasionally walk around to see each child's work.
  
As she got to one little girl who was working diligently, she asked what the drawing was.
  
The girl replied, "I'm drawing God."
  
The teacher paused and said, "But no one knows what God looks like."
  
Without missing a beat, or looking up from her drawing, the girl replied, "They will in a minute."
 
  
A Sunday school teacher was discussing the Ten Commandments with her five and six year olds.
  
After explaining the commandment to "honor" thy Father and thy Mother, she asked, "Is there a commandment that teaches us how to treat our brothers and sisters?"
  
Without missing a beat one little boy (the oldest of a family) answered, "Thou shall not kill."
  
 
  
One day a little girl was sitting and watching her mother do the dishes at the kitchen sink. She suddenly noticed that her mother had several strands of white hair sticking out in contrast on her brunette head.
  
She looked at her mother and inquisitively asked, "Why are some of your hairs white, Mom?"
  
Her mother replied, "Well, every time that you do something wrong and make me cry or unhappy, one of my hairs turns white."
  
The little girl thought about this revelation for a while and then said, "Momma, how come ALL of grandma's hairs are white?"
  
 
  
The children had all been photographed, and the teacher was trying to persuade them each to buy a copy of the group picture.
  
"Just think how nice it will be to look at it when you are all grown up and say, 'There's Jennifer, she's a lawyer,' or 'That's  Michael, He's a doctor.'
  
A small voice a! t the back of the room rang out, "And there's the teacher, She's dead. "
  
 
  
A teacher was giving a lesson on the circulation of the blood. Trying to make the matter clearer, she said,  "Now, class, if I stood on my head, the blood, as you know, would run into it, and I would turn red in the face.."  
  
"Yes," the class said.
  
"Then why is it that while I am standing upright in the ordinary position the blood doesn't run into my feet?" 
  
A little fellow shouted,
  
"Cause your feet ain't empty."
  
 
  
The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic elementary school for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made a note, and posted on the apple tray:
  
"Take only ONE. God is watching."
  
Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies.
  
A child had written a note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples.
  

God,I'VE KIDNAPPED YOUR MAMA. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER AGAIN, SEND THE BIKE!

LITTLE BOBBY

Little Bobby came into the kitchen where his mother was making dinner.

His birthday was coming up and he thought this was a good time to tell his mother what he wanted.

Mom, I want a bike for my birthday.

Little Bobby was a bit of a troublemaker.

He had gotten into trouble at school and at home.

Bobby's mother asked him if he thought he deserved to get a bike for his birthday.

Little Bobby, of course, thought he did.

Bobby's mother wanted Bobby to reflect on his behavior over the last year.

Go to your room, Bobby, and think about how you have behaved this year.

Then write a letter to God and tell him why you deserve a bike for your birthday.

Little Bobby stomped up the steps to his room and sat down to write God a letter.

************ **

Letter 1

Dear God,

I have been a very good boy this year and I would like a bike for my
birthday.

I want a red one.

Your friend,

Bobby

************ **

Bobby knew that this wasn't true. He had not been a very good boy this year,

So he tore up the letter and started over.

************ **

Letter 2

Dear God,

This is your friend Bobby. I have been a good boy this year and I would like

A red bike for my birthday. Thank you.

Your friend,

Bobby

************ **

Bobby knew that this wasn't true either. So, he tore up the letter and started again.

************ **

Letter 3

Dear God,

I have been an OK boy this year. I still would really like a bike for my birthday.

Bobby

************ **

Bobby knew he could not send this letter to God either. So, Bobby wrote a fourth letter.

************ **

Letter 4

God,

I know I haven't been a good boy this year. I am very sorry.

I will be a good boy if you just send me a bike for my birthday.

Please! Thank you,

Bobby

************ **

Bobby knew, even if it was true, this letter was not going to get him a bike.

Now, Bobby was very upset. He went downstairs and told his mom that he wanted to go to church.

Bobby's mother thought her plan had worked, as Bobby looked very sad.

Just be home in time for dinner, Bobby's mother told him.

Bobby walked down the street to the church on the corner.

Little Bobby went into the church and up to the altar.

He looked around to see if anyone was there.

Bobby bent down and picked up a statue of the Mary.

He slipped the statue under his shirt and ran out of the church, down the street, into the house, and up to his room.

He shut the door to his room and sat down with a piece of paper and a pen.
 Bobby began to write his letter to God.

************ **

Letter 5

God,

I'VE KIDNAPPED YOUR MAMA. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER AGAIN, SEND THE BIKE!!!!!!

 

 

16 Signs Your Child May Be Taking Drugs

Here is a list of problems that could indicate drug use. Be careful not to automatically assume, however, that drugs are the problem.

 

Children, especially adolescents, give off many of these signals when they are distressed in other ways, too. You'll need to sort out with your child exactly what the problem is and try to identify any substance abuse, perhaps with the help of a family counselor or child psychologist. Keep in mind that even if there is no drug abuse going on yet, these other problems need to be addressed.

 

1. Increased truancy and tardiness to classes

2. A drop in grades

3. Behavior problems in school

4. Losing interest in activities the child once enjoyed

5. Dropping old friends and a sudden influence of a new crowd

6. Personality changes -- a child who was once outgoing is now withdrawn, or someone who is usually relaxed is now fidgety much of the time

7. Sudden mood changes -- euphoria followed by tenseness or edginess; excessive suspiciousness or paranoia

8. Appearing listless or hung over

9. Increased forgetfulness

10. Increased secretiveness

11. Withdrawal from the family

12. More combativeness at home

13. Red eyes

14. Weight loss

15. Not sleeping well

16. Fatigue or hyperactivity

This checklist was adapted from the book Saying No Is Not Enough by Robert Schwebel

 

 

How to Prepare Your Child for College Interviews

There are more stressful situations than a college interview. Like when your name is broadcast on the school intercom followed by the words, "Please report to the main office." Or the awkward silence of a phone line just before you summon the courage to ask, "Are you busy Saturday night?"

 

Fortunately, the reality of a college interview is a lot less scary than the hype. Interviews seldom make or break an applicant's chances for admission. Grades, standardized tests, essays and recommendations carry more weight. Interviewers are usually more intent on selling their college than evaluating you.

 

Expect a little nervousness before your interview. It shows you care -- an endearing quality. If you tackle the problem head-on by saying, "I'm a little nervous," your interviewer is sure to be impressed. Most will try to help you break the ice. Part of their job is to learn about your personality and interests.

There is only one rule for successful interviewing: Be yourself. Don't try to play the role of high school big shot or future corporate lawyer. As a 17 year old, you're not supposed to have all the answers. Instead of telling the interviewer what you know, identify elements of the college -- faculty, programs or student body -- from which you hope to learn.

 

Most interviewers ask open-ended questions to allow applicants to direct the conversation. I recommend that students think about two or three subjects for an extended discussion -- an activity, a book, your high school, etc.

 

Interviewers often use a topic like these to assess the depth of an applicant's thought. If you say that Huckleberry Finn is one of your favorite books, be prepared for 15 minutes on the relationship between Huck and Jim.

Come armed with a question. Interviewers usually ask if you have one. Most applicants hem and haw and finally say that, well, maybe the tour answered them all. A good question generally deals with the character of the college:

 

"What kind of student does best here?" or "How is this college different from other similar ones?" A good question takes thought and is evidence that you've done homework. Dumb questions can be answered on page one of the catalogue ("Do you have a business program?").

 

It is not usually necessary to bring a transcript. Your high school will send an official one if you apply. Exceptions, however, include students who want to explain an issue in their record, or who would like a seat-of-the-pants assessment of their chances for admission. If you would like to show a sample of your art or poetry, feel free. Slides or tapes are also a possibility, but be sure to verify in advance that such things can be accommodated

 

When the pre-interview jitters hit, keep reminding yourself that the interviewer is your friend, or at least wants to be. No fear. No pain of rejection. Just a sincere conversation

 

LISTENING TO YOUR KIDS

In the day-to-day routine of making sure the kids get to school, do their homework, and eat their dinner (and on and on), simple basic family communication can go overlooked. And when you do get the chance to sit down at the dinner table with your teen (whenever everybody's schedules allow that to happen), you ask her how her day was at school. She says, "fine." And you wonder where the talkative toddler you used to know has gone. Should you just give up hope of knowing what's going on in her head? Of course not. There are simple things you can do to get that communication back. And if your child is still young, there are things you can do to insure that it never goes away. Here, the parents of iVillage share their tips for communicating with their kids.

 

"If you want your teen to talk to you, listen to them while they are pre-schoolers. Little children will talk and talk and talk even though you are often too busy to listen. But if they learn as child that you will drop everything and listen, they will continue to talk to you when they grow up."

 

Don't forget to listen, no matter how much you don't want to hear what they are saying. If they tell you, you are lucky!"

 

"My daughter and I try to get away once a year on a 'Mother/daughter' fun weekend. It really helps open up the lines of communication when you least expect it. When a teen tells you something you find shocking, never let your shock show. It will be the last time they tell you something."

 

"Don't ever forget how hard it is to be a teenager. They need a parent to be there and to listen when they need to be heard. Parents, don't make the mistake of thinking they are as grown up as they think they are. You always have to be listening and make sure you hear. Don't choose the career or social position over your children."

Touching story

Please read it through and give me some feed backs.

  

My mom only had one eye. I hated her... she was such an embarrassment.
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to
say hello to me.

I was so embarrassed.

How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.
The next day at school one of my classmates said, "EEEE, your mom only
has one eye!"

I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear.
I confronted her that day and said, " If you're only goanna make me a
laughing stock, why don't you just die?"

My mom did not respond...
I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because
I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her.
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my
mother came to visit me.
She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her
grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at
her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, "How dare you come to my house and scare my
children!"
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!"

And to this, my mother quietly answered, "Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have
gotten the wrong address,"
and she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.

So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.


My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

"My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and
scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you.
I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were
growing up.

You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and
lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you
having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my
place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,
Your mother.

Always tell someone that you love them because you never know what day
will be their last, or your own.

Always seek to resolve your problems or disagreements with loved ones
because if either of you should pass on before, the one who is left alive will have the rest of their life to ponder those unresolved feelings but will never find closure. And closure usually brings
peace... 

How to care Twins

From sharing the womb to discovering the world together, twins are two individuals bound to each other by nature. When a couple is told that they are expecting twins, it is not surprising if they feel a little ambivalent. Everyone knows that looking after one baby is a full time job, but two at the same time can be truly daunting.  Twins may be double the trouble, but they are also double the joy.  The security of twin relationship is greater than any other, and that it helps them to live with more assurance in their other relationships too.

How to take care of them?

Having twins can be one of the most exciting times in one’s life. It can also be one of the most demanding too. While twins bring special joys, caring for twins is a big job. When you take the twins home from the hospital, mentally prepare yourself that it is going to be hard. You will need to make a list of priorities.

The first few months after the babies arrive the task that faces a mother of twin babies may seem immense. From nappy-changes to breast-feeding, soothing the babies to helping them to sleep, each routine may seem twice as challenging. Having someone to help with a baby in the beginning may be a help, but with two babies to take care of, it becomes a necessity. You should try an accept help that is offered. Though this may be hard, it can make a big difference. Talk with your partner about how the duties of caring for the babies can be shared. Having both parents involved in childcare would be good for both the parents and the children.

It will be a long time before you get a full night’s sleep, so it is best that you do not miss out on any chance to rest during the day. Expect to feel tired and have some negative feelings from time to time. Most parents of twins have moments when they feel they aren’t up to the job of caring for them. These feelings do not last for a long time. It is best to give each twin time alone with you as they need to know that they are important as individuals and not just as twins. Mothers often find that it is easier to breastfeed than bottlefeed twins. Mothers who are worried that they will not produce enough milk should ensure that they drink enough fluids and eat a proper diet. As long as the doctor feels that the babies’ weight gain is adequate, there is no reason to worry.

How important is encouragement?

Just because your babies are born at the same time or look alike, does not mean that they are not individuals in their own right. It may be amusing to dress them up alike and that people cannot tell one from the other. But it is always important to remember that they are two separate beings and to treat them as such from day one. Avoid referring to them as "the twins" and use their given names. Be sure to take photographs of each child separately because at some point he will ask for a photograph.

It is important to encourage individuality. As the children become older, try choosing different toys and encourage sharing. Build a special one-to-one relationship with each child. Look for special talents and praise them often. Twins usually have a special bond between them. Try to rear them as individuals without destroying their special bond.  Each twin should be encouraged to have his own friend’s circle and to do separate activities with his own friends. Parents of twins will have to take decisions based on the personalities and wishes of their set of twins.

Facts about twins:

Twins often tend to develop at a similar pace, and may be predisposed to having similar choices e.g. in toys, food etc. but they may not be ready for sharing as yet. It may be a difficult situation to handle when both want the same thing, or when both demand something different. Twins, however, are children who get along more or less easily with each other just like other siblings. At times, twins may behave as if they are one person, thinking, speaking and moving alike. It is their separateness that needs to be emphasized. For the development of each twin, it is very important that both of you spend individual time with each baby.

Twins have the closest degree of kinship possible for two distinctly separated individuals. A study of young twins revealed that they show more affection for each other and are less aggressive than singletons. Twins rely on each other and trust each other completely with their innermost feelings and thoughts. Even as infants and toddlers, they are able to communicate with each other by facial expressions, special signs and even special language.

With time, the twins are allowed to grow in an atmosphere conducive to individual growth. While acknowledging the benefits of their being together, they will reach a stage when they decide to part ways. 

 

 

chaste and pure love

                                           MUMS LOVE

 

When you were one year old she fed you and bathed you

you thanked her by cryiong whole night.

 

When you were two years old she taught you to work

You thanked her by running away.

 

When you were 3 years old she made all your meals with love.

You thanked her by tosssing your plate on the floor

 

When you were 4 years old she gave you some crayons to do drawings

You thanked her by painting the dining room table.

 

When you were 5 years old she dressed you for holidays.

You thanked her by plopping into the nearest.

 

When you were 6 years old she took you to school

You thanked her by screaming "IAM NOT GOING"

 

When you were 7 years old she brought you a  baseball

You thanked her by throwing it at the neighbours window.

 

When you were 8 years old she gave you a ice cream

You thanked her by spilling it all over your lap.

 

When you were 9 years old she paid for piano lessons.

You thanked her by never bothering to practice

 

When you were 10 years old she drove you all the way from soccer to gymnastic to birthday parties.

You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

 

When you were 11 years old she took you and your friends to a  movie.

You thanked her by sitting in a different.

 

When you were 12 years old she requested you not to see certain TV shows.

You thanked her by waiting untill she goes out of the house.

 

When you were 13 years old she suggested a haircut.

You thanked her of having no taste.

 

When you were 14 years old she paid a months summer camp.

You thanked her by not writing a simple letter.

 

When you were 14 years old she came home from work for a hug

You thanked her by having you doorlocked.

 

When you were 16 years old she taught you how to drive.

You thanked her by being booked for overspeeding.

 

When you were 17 years old she was expecting a important call.

You thanked her by staying late night hanged on the phone.

 

When you were 18 years old she cried at your high school graduation

You thanked her by partying untill dawn.

 

When you were 19 years old she drove you to the campus carried your heavy bag to the corridor.

You thanked her by saying goodbye outside the dorm so that you dont get embarrased in front of friends.

 

When you were 20 she asked you if you were seeing someone

You thanked her by saying it is none of her business.

 

When you were 21 she suggested certain careers.

You thanked her by saying "I dont want to be like you."

 

When you were 22 she hugged you at college graduation.

You thanked her by saying you want to go to Europe.

 

When you were 23 she bought furniture for your new apartment.

You thanked her by tellling your friends it is out of date.

 

When you were 24 she met your fiance and asked about your plans for future.

You thanked her by glaring and growling "Muuhh---ther"

 

When you were 25 she paid for the wedding and cried telling you how much she loves you..

You thanked her by moving half the world away from her.

 

When you were 30 she called you to give you some advice on your baby.

You thanked her by telling" things are different now".

 

When you were 40 she called you to remind of a relatives birthday.

You thanked her by saying :"Iam really busy calll back later"

 

When you were 50 she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.

You thanked her by saying the burden the parents become.

to thier children.

 

And one day she quiety says good bye to you.

And then every thing that you never came crushing like a thunder on your heart.

 

IF SHE IS AROUND NEVER FORGET TO LOVE HER.

                         MORE THAN EVER.

AND IF SHE IS NOT REMEMBER HER UNCONITIONAL

                        LOVE AND PASS IT ON.

ALWAYS REMEMBER TO LOVE THY MOTHER,BECAUSE YOU           HAVE  ONLY ONE MOTHER IN THE LIFE TIME.

 

Home Remedies for THUMB SUCKING

THUMB SUCKING

 

It was cute when she was a baby, but now that your child has reached kindergarten age, you're starting to worry about her having her thumb in her mouth all the time. You feel embarrassed when you're out in public with her (What will the neighbors think?) and are concerned about what her peers will say in school.

 

You're not alone: Pediatricians estimate that somewhere in the neighborhood of 18 percent of children between the ages of two and six suck their thumbs. Why do they start? Various explanations have been suggested, but most experts agree that thumb sucking calms and comforts the child.

 

Pediatricians have observed that the phenomena only occurs in western culture, within industrialized societies where children generally begin to spend their time physically separate from their mothers at a very early age. Thumb sucking is uncommon in cultures where mothers tend to hold their babies for long periods or otherwise keep them in physical contact with their bodies throughout their early years.

 

As you'll read in the tips that follow, most experts discourage parents from trying to stop a child's thumb sucking before the child demonstrates that he or she is ready to stop. If your child has reached that point, read the following home remedies.

If not, try to talk out your frustration with a friend or your spouse and wait a year or two before intervening.

 

Let the child decide it's a problem. If there's one message that pediatricians have about thumb sucking, it's this: The best way to get a child to continue thumb sucking is to tell him or her to stop. A better strategy is to wait until the child finds an incentive to quit the behavior, such as being teased at school about thumb sucking, and let him or her bring it up. Experts say that addressing the problem when the child is ready is more likely to be successful than attacking it head on and forcing him or her to quit.

 

Use a reward system. Pediatricians sometimes recommend a game-playing, reward-based system for helping kids stop sucking their thumbs. Try buying a calendar and placing it on the refrigerator. For each day you don't see the child sucking his or her thumb, you can put a smiley-face sticker on the day. At the end of a set period of time, say a month, you can offer a modest reward, such as a toy or dinner at the child's favorite restaurant.

 

Try ordeal therapy. How about trying a little reverse psychology? Point out to a thumb-sucking child that he or she isn't being fair to the other fingers -- so why not suck them, too? Give the child a timer and explain that it's important to suck all fingers for the same duration. Often, the child will grow so tired of the process that they quit thumb sucking altogether. The only problem with this type of approach is that kids are likely to see through it when it comes from a parent (they know the parent really wants them to stop altogether). If you suspect that this will be the case, a pediatrician or close friend of the family may be able to help.

 

Offer the child the option of thumb sucking in private. Consider your efforts a success if the child quits thumb sucking in front of you or in public. Don't worry, the relatively brief time a child can spend sucking on a thumb in private won't be long enough to cause other problems.

 

Never use negative reinforcement. If the child has a slip, it may be destructive to use a negative reward, such as placing a sad-faced sticker on a calendar date. Failure has a nasty way of perpetuating itself.

 

Try "reminder fluid." Although some doctors see it as cruel, others recommend the use of bad-tasting fluids that are put on the thumb to keep the child from putting it in his or her mouth. However, don't use this method as a punishment. Rather, stress the positive by telling the child that the fluid will help by serving as a reminder of his or her goal. As an alternative, parents can place a glove or mitten on the child's hand as a reminder to keep the thumb out of the mouth.

 

Start with the easy stuff, then move on. First, you might suggest that the child stop thumb sucking while in public, or some other time when he or she is most likely to comply. Then you can move on to the times when the habit is most ingrained, such as bedtime. You may want to double rewards if the child doesn't suck his or her thumb during the more challenging times.

 

Don't yell. Although you may feel frustrated when your child slides back into his or her thumb-sucking behavior, don't punish or yell at the child. You will only make him or her nervous and upset, which will probably lead to more thumb sucking.

 

Wait it out. You know what happens to most kids who suck their thumbs at four, five, or even six years of age? They stop. Parents often notice that children engage in the habit a bit less with each passing year, or perhaps only suck their thumbs at certain times, such as when they're tired or watching television. Pediatricians say that many children give up thumb sucking altogether by age six or seven because of peer pressure -- ribbing from friends and schoolmates shames them into stopping.

Home Remedy Treatments for Thumb Sucking

Persistent thumb sucking in older children may be a symptom of emotional distress. He or she may be plagued by feelings of sadness or anxiety, and thumb sucking may continue to be a form of self comfort. If this sounds like your child, insisting that he or she stop thumb sucking will only make matters worse. Instead, try to discover the source of your child's sadness or anxiety.

Parents often begin to worry about a child if he or she continues thumb sucking past age four or five. While it's perfectly normal to be concerned that the child's habit reflects poorly on your parenting skills, it's counterproductive to let your son or daughter know how upset you are or use wrongheaded measures to make the child stop thumb sucking. But what are the potential consequences if your child does not quit by this age, as most do?

According to the American Dental Association, thumb sucking can lead to problems if it persists after permanent teeth have come in. The constant sucking can cause misalignment of teeth and affect the proper growth of the mouth. The severity of the problem seems to depend on a child's individual sucking style: Kids who simply rest their thumbs on their tongues tend to have fewer problems than children who suck vigorously.

As a child reaches school age, thumb sucking could pose social problems. In one study, first-graders were shown photos of two seven-year-old kids. In one set of photos, the children were sucking their thumbs, in the second set they were not. The first-graders rated children in the thumb-sucking pose as less intelligent, happy, attractive, and desirable as friends. Psychologists say thumb suckers are frequent targets of teasing.

Other potential problems for children who suck their thumbs chronically include infections of the thumbnail, thumb malformation, and the possibility of poisoning (if a child touches a toxic substance before inserting a thumb in the mouth).

There are a variety of dental devices that can be used to help a child stop thumb sucking, but only use one if the child accepts it. Forcing a child to use such a device can damage a child's psyche, which can be harder to fix than misaligned teeth.

Thumbing sucking can be a vexing problem for parents. Understanding the origins, as well as a strategy for breaking your child of the habit, can give you peace of mind.